Accepting myself as I am

I've spent too much of my life comparing myself to others and desiring to be someone else.

When I was younger, I believe the comments I received about my quiet and shy nature made me feel inadequate. Instead of embracing my qualities and abilities, I undervalued myself due to the implied negativity associated with being that way.

It has just dawned on me that I have consistently viewed my strengths as weaknesses. I possess qualities such as being calm, conscientious, organized, and punctual. I excel at considering problems from various perspectives, have a strategic mindset, and refrain from taking action until I have thoroughly and meticulously considered the situation.

While I understand that not everyone may appreciate my qualities, I acknowledge their significance. Different projects and positions call for a variety of individuals. An organization consisting only of similar staff members is not optimal. While determination and creativity are crucial, there is also a necessity for individuals who can bring these ideas down to earth and formulate practical strategies.

It is worrisome that some people believe certain qualities are superior to others and that only a select few are fortunate enough to possess them. In reality, it is crucial to find the right fit between an individual and a job. Salespeople, programmers, accountants, and other professionals require distinct traits. The educational system should actively assist young individuals in identifying their strengths, weaknesses, and the work settings that align best with their abilities.

These reflections represent another stage in my journey towards self-acceptance. I am a firm believer in self-improvement, yet I acknowledge that there are aspects of myself that are immutable. I have longed to alter certain traits, but I have come to realize that expending energy on battling my inherent nature is futile.

It is time for me to acknowledge and value myself for who I am and appreciate the positive aspects of my life that serve as valuable assets in specific endeavours. Pretending to be someone I am not is counterproductive and a futile effort. I realize now that I have spent too much time concentrating on my shortcomings rather than my strengths.

Lately, I've noticed a shift within myself. I've discovered a newfound determination and confidence, feeling more at ease with who I am. I've also become more aware of the contrast in my emotional state when I am content with myself, compared to when self-doubt creeps in and drains my energy.

While I can still focus on self-improvement, I can shift my focus to different aspects. Rather than being self-critical, I can start asking myself new questions, such as how I can better utilize my strengths and talents. How can I nurture my own being and enable myself to thrive? This shift in mindset brings about a sense of contentment and joy within me, fostering excitement for the future and the opportunities that lie ahead.