For everything, there is a season

Lately, I've been feeling extremely exhausted, making it difficult to wake up in the morning when it's dark and cold. Consequently, I often need to take a nap after work.

After talking to several people lately, I've come to understand that I'm not the only one experiencing feelings of sadness or depression. I've asked those I've conversed with whether it might be typical to feel this way when the darkness outside seems almost constant.

In today's society, there is a prevailing expectation that individuals should maintain their usual activity and fitness year-round. Many feel pressured to adhere to their regular routines, including working full days, attending to family responsibilities, going to the gym, socializing with friends, and more. Consequently, when faced with mental or physical obstacles, individuals tend to be hard on themselves.

But how did our ancestors manage in the past, when most of them worked as fishermen and farmers? They worked hard when the weather was good, spending summers preparing for winter. But when winter came, their activities were probably limited to taking care of animals and waiting for spring. While today's situations may differ, the timeless cycle of winter, spring, summer, and autumn continues unchanged.

In the past, we followed a set of tasks for each season, but we have deviated from this pattern that corresponds to the natural cycle. We feel remorse for our lack of productivity in the winter, although it is a time for relaxation and rejuvenation to prepare for the tasks in the upcoming summer. Ideally, we should hibernate indoors until the snow has disappeared.

A significant part of my self-improvement journey involves embracing myself fully. It means acknowledging my emotions without judgment rather than suppressing them, forcing myself to be strong, or resorting to distractions like watching TV or indulging in retail therapy. Instead, I allow myself the time and space to experience and process my feelings.

Some people suggest that part of adult self-improvement involves taking on the role of one's parent and nurturing oneself anew. This process entails meeting one's needs, which can differ depending on the circumstances. The crucial aspect is gaining self-awareness and understanding one's current requirements. This may involve self-support, self-compassion, or self-soothing.

Rest is my main focus at the moment. I've been experiencing fatigue for some time, and I know I need to start going to bed earlier. Nonetheless, if I decide to stay up late and need a nap after work, I don't feel bad about it. I enjoy unwinding during the winter, lounging in bed, and watching TV when required.

The present circumstances are fleeting, and spring will come around once more. I observe a lift in my spirits each spring as daylight hours increase. This is when I find the motivation to partake in activities that genuinely interest me. Until then, I intend to unwind by enjoying a hot bath, lighting candles, reading books, cooking hearty stews for warmth, and relishing a delightful cup of coffee. I opt not to constantly criticise myself for not feeling joyful and energetic this winter.