Facing fear

I am well aware that the year is nearing its end, and along with it, the idea of setting a goal for each month of the year. However, I only succeeded in doing this for the first two or three months, not due to any fault in the idea itself, but because my priorities changed.

I set objectives to quit consuming soda (which I have achieved), visit the gym (which I did, though not very successfully), and climb Esja mountain for the first time (which I've accomplished). However, I was unsure about what other goals to establish—it appeared that I could only relate this concept to exercise and dietary goals.

Which is where the problem lies. I began to view these goals as somewhat insignificant compared to the challenges I was facing. By April, I had been in talk therapy for over six months, which took precedence over fitness for me. Still, I was reluctant to discuss this topic here, since my writing is open to everyone. However, how can someone write a self-help blog without sharing their personal experiences?

It's impossible. Frankly, I'm exhausted from pretending to be anyone other than myself. Allow me to share my thoughts on fitness and diet: I believe we're approaching it all wrong. We assume that by working out and following a strict diet, we will achieve the ideal body shape. We convince ourselves that eliminating indulgences like candy and other perceived unhealthy foods will lead to perfection.

Striving for perfection in our appearance and seeking admiration may not lead to lasting happiness. Even when we achieve our desired weight and physical goals, the pressure to maintain them can overshadow our sense of contentment. Instead of constantly comparing ourselves to others and denying ourselves pleasures, let's focus on finding true happiness in being relaxed, confident, and accepting of ourselves just as we are.

Have you considered experimenting with a different approach? Perhaps beginning with introspection could be beneficial. Imagine dedicating time to introspection, confronting our fears, and being truthful with ourselves. It's a fact that we often deceive ourselves. Engaging in deep introspection is challenging. It necessitates solitude, away from the influence of our loved ones, with no distractions, forcing us to focus inwardly.

Perhaps we cannot accomplish it independently. Maybe we need assistance from a professional, which is perfectly acceptable, given their purpose. There's no shame in seeking help. By confronting our fears, we realize that they are not as daunting as we thought—there is truly nothing to fear. Everything will be okay. There is nothing amiss. What is truly important, what truly matters, is that there is nothing wrong with you.

Here's the deal. If you are in good health and happy with yourself just as you are, you have the option to withdraw from the competition. This competition promotes the idea that you must be slim, follow a strict diet, and give up all of your vices. You are free to visit the gym, choose a salad over a burger, reduce your alcohol intake, or quit altogether.

However, remember that it is not a necessity. You should not feel any guilt if you desire a burger, ice cream, or a glass of white wine. The choice is yours entirely. If you are self-assured and content with yourself, you might discover that you no longer crave such foods. Instead of what I began the year with, this mindset has now become my improved way of approaching life.