Facing fear

I am very conscious that the year is almost over, and I am also aware of the concept of setting a goal for each month of this year. However, I only managed to follow through for the first two or three months, not because the idea was flawed but because my priorities shifted.

I began establishing objectives for myself to quit consuming soda (which I have largely achieved), visit the gym (which I have not been very successful), and climb Esja mountain for the first time (which I accomplished). However, I was unsure about what other goals to establish—it appeared that I could only relate this concept to exercise and dietary goals.

The issue lies here. I began to perceive these goals as somewhat trivial in comparison to my personal struggles. By April, I had been undergoing interview therapy for more than six months, a priority over fitness for me. However, I hesitated to delve into this topic here, as my writing is accessible to anyone. Yet, how can one create a self-help blog without sharing their own experiences?

It's impossible. Frankly, I'm exhausted from pretending to be anyone other than myself. Let me share my thoughts on fitness and diet: I believe we're approaching it all wrong. We assume that by working out and following a strict diet, we will achieve the ideal body shape. We convince ourselves that if we eliminate indulgences like candy and other perceived unhealthy foods, we will attain perfection.

Striving for perfection in our appearance and seeking admiration may not lead to lasting happiness. Even when we achieve our desired weight and physical goals, the pressure to maintain them can overshadow our sense of contentment. Instead of constantly comparing ourselves to others and denying ourselves pleasures, let's focus on finding true happiness in being relaxed, confident, and accepting of ourselves just as we are.

Have you considered experimenting with a different approach? Perhaps beginning with introspection could be beneficial. Imagine dedicating time to introspect, confronting our fears, and being truthful with ourselves. It's a fact that we often deceive ourselves. Engaging in deep introspection is challenging. It necessitates solitude, away from the influence of our loved ones, with no distractions, forcing us to focus inwardly.

Perhaps we cannot accomplish it independently. Maybe we require assistance from a professional, and that is perfectly acceptable, as that is their purpose, and there is no shame in seeking help. By confronting our fears, we realize that they are not as daunting as we thought—there is truly nothing to fear. Everything will be okay. There is nothing amiss. What is truly important, what truly matters, is that there is nothing wrong with you.

Here's the deal. If you are in good health and happy with yourself just as you are, you have the option to withdraw from the competition. This competition promotes the idea that you must be slim, follow a strict diet, and give up all of your vices. You are free to visit the gym, choose a salad over a burger, reduce your alcohol intake, or quit altogether.

However, remember that it is not a necessity. You should not feel any guilt if you desire a burger, ice cream, or a glass of white wine. The choice is yours entirely. If you are self-assured and content with yourself, you might discover that you no longer crave such foods. Instead of what I began the year with, this mindset has now become my improved way of approaching life.