Fear of judgement or disapproval

Lately, I've been contemplating how socially acceptable it is for individuals to pass judgment or feel offended by others, even if they have no personal connection.

For instance, it is frequently seen in the media and/or on social media that individuals feel pressured to take a stance or pick a side on various matters, often without fully understanding the issues.

One of the main reasons why I have never properly shared my writing before, despite writing columns for years, is due to these interactions. Even though I've always felt the urge to express my thoughts and emotions on paper, I have been apprehensive about the potential reactions to my words.

While this fear is not unfounded, as I have personal experiences of being confronted and verbally attacked by strangers due to a controversial column I wrote, my approach to self-expression has evolved in recent weeks and months. I now feel confident enough to speak my mind without being overly concerned about others' opinions or anticipating negative feedback on my work.

I've come to understand that I don't need to take it personally when people disagree with me or criticize me or my opinions. When I choose to share my opinions publicly, I need to be ready to receive various reactions from individuals who are entitled to express their thoughts on what I say. It's acceptable for people to hold different viewpoints, as long as they objectively convey their criticism.

When faced with criticism that lacks objectivity and helpfulness, I remind myself that some individuals use online platforms to express their anger or annoyance, while others simply enjoy passing judgment and spreading gossip. I cannot control their actions or words, but I can control my response and decide whether to take their remarks personally.

I have accepted that there is a possibility of being misinterpreted whenever I communicate. Despite my efforts to be precise in my writing, there have been instances where readers have perceived something different from my intended message. I must acknowledge that individuals will interpret my writing through their perspectives and convictions, regardless of my choice of words.

In an ideal world, these are not concerns that should occupy my mind, as there should be no basis for individuals to pass judgment on others or project their emotions onto them. Nevertheless, I have come to the realization that I must not allow external influences to dictate my emotions or decisions. I am free to express my thoughts to others, provided that I am at ease with it and feel the need to communicate.