Positive changes

When discussing intricate changes, most individuals likely associate them with sickness, unemployment, or marital separation, which we can undoubtedly acknowledge as challenging.

However, being an anxious individual, I would often experience feelings of anxiety when confronted with any change, regardless of its size, whether it was starting at a different school or job or travelling to another country. In these instances, I had to push myself to venture outside my comfort zone and confront the unknown.

Thankfully, my circumstances have changed significantly now. In recent years, I have benefitted greatly from the support of various therapists and counsellors who have assisted me in navigating my mental struggles and uncovering the root causes of my anxiety and concerns. Through this process, I have come to realize that I can rely on life to offer me what I require and that I possess the capability to trust my judgment and support myself in times of need.

Yet I was surprised by the difficulties and intricacies of welcoming new people and exploring unknown experiences. I realized how difficult it can be to make positive changes. We frequently worry unnecessarily about obstacles that may never arise while expecting everything to be easy if our dreams come true or luck suddenly comes our way. Nevertheless, any change involves the lack of the familiar state we are used to, requiring time to adjust and get acquainted with new situations and experiences.

Even though I made significant efforts to eliminate previous behaviour patterns, I found that the improvements in my life revealed hidden fears that I hadn't acknowledged. I realized that I had to address the fear of rejection, the anxiety stemming from the possibility of losing something, the importance of establishing clear boundaries, and the importance of communicating my thoughts and emotions. Additionally, I had to release my expectations for the future to adjust to new situations.

Throughout this time of great change in my life, I participated in a codependency support group that met weekly, and it proved to be incredibly beneficial. The opportunity to share my thoughts each week and receive advice and guidance on navigating my challenges was priceless. This encounter underscored the realization that positive or negative change can be demanding, and it is completely normal to face some difficulties along the way.